“Does he love me?” It’s a question that has been asked since the beginning of time. Men are hard to read, but if you know what you’re looking for, you can catch the tiny details that show you the answer. Here are 10 things men do only when they’re in love.
1. He talks to you all the time
He wants to know how your day has gone, and he wants to tell you about his. You learn about his family, his friends, his childhood, his dreams, his goals… you name it, he’s told you about it.
But it’s not all one way; he also listens to you when you talk. How do you know he listens? Because he remembers names and dates and people and things that are important to you. He doesn’t dismiss your opinions or your pipe dreams. Some couples talk constantly but never really say anything. Communication is key.
2. He doesn’t give up during rough patches
“Does he really love me?” you might wonder during the rough patches. Every couple argues. But does he admit his mistakes and not gloat over yours? Does he walk away or “get back” at you… or does he try to make it right?
Not giving up on the relationship doesn’t mean he always says “yes dear” to you. It means that he sees something worth working toward and fighting for. He looks for ways to strengthen your relationship, not pick it apart.
3. He makes you part of his circle
One milestone of a relationship is getting introduced to your partner’s friends, relatives, coworkers — and you are folded into the group. Sure, there might be “that” friend or “that” relative you just don’t get along with, for whatever reason.
But if he chooses to have your back with them, then he’s thinking in terms of “we” and not “me.” And that is a wonderful answer to “Is he really in love with me?”
4. He runs errands with you
Any couple can go out and have good times, but real couples go out and do grocery shopping or run errands together. Real couples sit in the waiting room at the dentist with each other.
The idea is to be together even when you’re not “on,” when you’re not all dressed to impress. That’s not to say you should be joined at the hip 24/7, but if you like to be together even during mundane tasks, that’s a good sign.
5. He wants to hold your hand
This is a major sign that things are good: if he’s always finding reasons to touch you. Holding your hand, especially in public, is a big plus. Or he brushes your hair out of your face or puts his hand on your knee when you’re sitting together.
I don’t mean excessive kissing and groping in public, but quiet, gentle indications that he wants to be near you. You know those old couples holding hands in the park? That’s what you want to aim for.
6. He loves you even on your off days
Nobody’s perfect. You’re going to have bad hair days or miserable brain days, and you’re not going to be your best sometimes. But the man who loves you sees beyond that. He loves the whole package, not just the outside.
He knows that when you’re down you need picking up, not picking on. And he’s concerned if you’re having a bad streak. The question is not “is he in love with me?” but “is he still in love with me despite my bad days?”
7. He has your back
Chivalry is not dead. Men like to be protective, and even though women don’t always need protecting, the gesture is important. When a man is in love with you, he will try to keep you from getting hurt, physically and emotionally.
After all, if you’re a team, then what hurts one hurts you both. Men understand this and real men will do anything to make sure you’re both in it together.
8. He lets you spend time away from him
If a man really is in love with you then he won’t be jealous of your friends or your time with them. You have a whole life full of interests from before you met him and it’s the same with him. As long as the time you spend together is good, it doesn’t matter if you go away for a weekend with the girls or vice versa.
Trust is a key factor. If you have to ask “does he still love me?” after a weekend trip to Vegas, then you need to talk it out.
9. You laugh together
This is one you should see early on. If you’re wondering “is he falling in love with me?” this should make you smile. Men learn to socialize by playful banter and joking around. If you can make each other laugh — without hurting the other’s feelings or telling them they’re too sensitive — then this is a great sign.
Laugh together about things. Laugh at each other’s jokes and each other’s mistakes — and your own — and you can face anything together. If he can joke and let his guard down around you, he’s definitely into you.
10. He’s your biggest fan
He thinks you’re awesome and what you do — your career, your hobbies, your volunteer work — is as awesome as you are. He has no trouble singing your praises to anyone who listens; your success doesn’t diminish his.
He’s so proud of what you accomplish and loves to promote your cause. No one is more loyal or supportive, and that’s the way it should be.
If your man exhibits several of these signs, congratulations! He’s in love with you! You might want to look for these signs that he’s going to propose soon.
But if your man didn’t fare so well on this test, you might want to check out these body language signs he’s just not that into you. No point in wasting time on a man who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve.