Bullying. Pretty nasty, right?
Not something you’d ever want to be associated with. Funny, then, that so many of us are in the habit of beating ourselves up.
We set the bar high, and when we don’t quite make the mark, the self-admonishment starts: “Oh, why didn’t I leave earlier? I’m such an idiot…”, or “How could I eat that whole packet of biscuits?” We’d never talk to a friend this way, so why on earth do we speak to ourselves like that?
Moreover, when we take the tone of a harsh self-critic, our bodies switch on our fight-or-flight hormones, flooding the body with cortisol and adrenaline.
We’re literally stewing in a toxic cauldron of self-recrimination.
Fortunately, you can learn ‘self-compassion’ treating yourself as you would a good friend, learning to accept your struggles and having a little sympathy for yourself.
Studies have shown that even the harshest self-critic can learn to change by using the following five strategies…